Wild Child, Children Who Hurt Ourselves and Others
"I blame the parents"
"This is obviously a cry for help."
"If the parents were just held responsible - this kind of thing would never happen."
"The fruit doesn't fall far from the tree"
"Teach a child in the way he should go and he will not deviate far from it"
Chances are we've heard one of the above phrases more than once in our lives. We may even have said or thought the same thing ourselves as we watched some child behave in a way that suggested that their parents had little or no control over them.
It's just common sense isn't it? Bad parents produce bad kids.
But if you are a parent of a dissociated child, those words do not sound like common sense. Those words echo with condemnation from a world that never considered, can't imagine or refuses to believe that children can suffer from the same dissociation disorders that afflict adults.
After all - we don't blame the parents when a child gets the measles - or a life threatening illness. On the contrary! We extend our support our sympathies and our prayers to parents whose children struggle with physical ailments. Why should we blame the parents when a child gets dissociated?
But we do.
Who is the dissociated Child?
She is the schoolgirl who teases a weaker child mercilessly.
He is the playground bully.
She is the friend of a child who turns into an enemy overnight, with no warning and no reason, only to become a best friend again the next day.
He is the child who breaks windows.
She is the pregnant teenager.
He is the boy who brings drugs to school.
She is the child who slaps her sister.
He is the kid who they call delinquent.
She is the sweet little girl who took a pill overdose
He is the quiet kid who is cruel to animals.
She is the 10 year old who shoplifts.
There are many forms and shapes of dissociated Wild Child - and there are kids who misbehave who do not have a dissociation. These examples are given as an illustration - not as a diagnosis of dissociation.
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